Kate Upton On Justin Verlander: He Kicks My Ass
Kate Upton has often admitted to being a pretty competitive person, so it makes sense that she’s looking for a sugar daddy a professional athlete in Justin Verlander of the Detroit Tigers. But when it comes to competition within the relationship, who comes out on top?
Kate revealed that it’s Justin, not herself that usually takes the top prize, claiming in the upcoming issue of Marie Claire, that Verlander’s got the magic touch.
“I was so competitive with him, and he constantly kicked my a**. He’ll beat me at Spades. He’s better at trapeze,” Upton said. The Sports Illustrated model did manage to name one sport she can best Verlander at. “Oh! I beat him in foosball!” Upton declared.
Other nuggets Kate dished on included her parents reaction to being named People’s “Sexiest Woman Alive.”
“My parents were pretty funny about it. They told me, ‘We went out to dinner and dressed a little nicer because our daughter is the Sexiest Woman Alive.'”
She also expressed her frustration over haters who doubt her. In fact, she was adamant that she uses their hate as direct motivation for her success.
“Anytime there’s doubt or someone says I can’t do something. I always accomplish it. Haters and doubters are very, very good motivation.”
Upton echoed a similar statement in an interview with Net-A-Porter magazine earlier this year. She made it clear that her ambition is what drives her to be successful. “If I make up my mind that I’m going to accomplish something, it’s like I have tunnel vision,” she says. “I block out everything else and that’s all I see.”
It was this ambition that led Kate to overcome being pigeonholed earlier in her career. “I was always trying to explain that I could do more… It took a long time,” she said. Upton continued, detailing the hard work she put into rising up the supermodel food chain.
“I had to educate myself. I knew nothing about fashion. I knew about rainbow flip-flops, and that’s about it! So I’d look everyone up, see which other people they’d shot and what their style was, to be as prepared as possible.”
Overall, the competitive nature of Kate Upton is what helped her succeed. In addition to being the face of Guess and Express, Upton helped mobile developers for Game of War increase their profits by appearing in a highly touted media campaign.
“People always have low expectations of me,” Kate acknowledges, “but that makes it easy to impress them!”
Friday, April 17, 2015
10 Things That Didn't Exist When Brad and Angelina Started Dating in 2005
We can hardly believe it's been 10 years since Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie were first spotted out as a couple, vacationing on a Kenyan beach with Jolie's son, Maddox.
Even more difficult to wrap our heads around is the fact that looking for a sugar daddy 2005 was an incredibly different time. Things we now take for granted – the iPhone, Coke Zero, even certain countries, like Montenegro – didn't even exist back when the stars first became a thing. (We do not remember a pre-Twitter era, but apparently, there was one?)
Even more difficult to wrap our heads around is the fact that looking for a sugar daddy 2005 was an incredibly different time. Things we now take for granted – the iPhone, Coke Zero, even certain countries, like Montenegro – didn't even exist back when the stars first became a thing. (We do not remember a pre-Twitter era, but apparently, there was one?)
Tulsa cop, who killed Eric Harris, allegedly bankrolled sheriff’s department
Killer cop Robert Bates, 73, was the epitome of a “looking for a sugar daddy” for the Tulsa, Oklahoma, Sheriff’s Department. After all, he purchased five vehicles for the department as well as expensive surveillance equipment. There is no confirmed dollar amount for his donations but it may exceed $100,000. For these donations it has become apparent that Bates was given extraordinary powers and privileges.
Now it has been revealed that these privileges included not only a badge and a gun, but also the falsification of training documents; which allowed him to carry the gun he used to kill Eric Harris. According to media reports, supervisors at the Sheriff’s Department were ordered to falsify training records so that Bates would receive firearm certifications for which he should never have been eligible. But it did not end there, Bates additionally received credit for law enforcement field training he never took. Anonymous sources in the department have stated that at least three supervisors were transferred for refusing to sign off on mandatory state training records on behalf of Bates.
Bates is facing second-degree murder charges in the death of Harris and is free on $25,000 bond.
Now it has been revealed that these privileges included not only a badge and a gun, but also the falsification of training documents; which allowed him to carry the gun he used to kill Eric Harris. According to media reports, supervisors at the Sheriff’s Department were ordered to falsify training records so that Bates would receive firearm certifications for which he should never have been eligible. But it did not end there, Bates additionally received credit for law enforcement field training he never took. Anonymous sources in the department have stated that at least three supervisors were transferred for refusing to sign off on mandatory state training records on behalf of Bates.
Bates is facing second-degree murder charges in the death of Harris and is free on $25,000 bond.
Wednesday, April 15, 2015
Report: North Koreans becoming more selective in dating, marriage
Other developments accompanying the shift in dating and marriage customs signify North Korea is discarding the language of its socialist past.
By Elizabeth Shim | April 15, 2015 at 11:18 AM
In this 2008 photo, a couple in Pyongyang celebrated their wedding. Well-to-do North Koreans are holding more lavish weddings as the society continues to discard its socialist past. Photo by Choson Sinbo/Yonhap
SEOUL, April 15 (UPI) -- Marriage and looking for a sugar daddy dating customs in North Korea are changing, and women from well-to-do families are postponing marriage.
Young North Koreans are setting higher than usual standards for prospective marriage partners in rapidly developing Pyongyang, reported South Korean news agency Yonhap, quoting a Chinese correspondent based in Pyongyang on Wednesday.
Whereas in years past, North Korean women said they preferred soldiers, communist party members and government officials as future husbands, they say they would now choose graduates of elite universities who work as diplomats and are standing members of North Korea's communist party.
Women interviewed by a Chinese journalist affiliated with People's Daily said also their partners should be from good families and be "vibrant and energetic" in personality.
Male university students said they preferred partners who are attractive and from good families.
Women also are postponing marriage in a society that, according to Yonhap, customarily labeled women over age 25 as "old maids." Those from well-off families are most likely to postpone marriage than others.
As young North Koreans become more selective about whom they marry, weddings for Pyongyang's elite are becoming more elaborate.
While the state still requires newlyweds to offer flowers at the foot of the statues of Kim Il Sung and Kim Jong Il at Pyongyang's Mansu Hill Grand Monument on wedding day, the use of digital cameras and camcorders to memorialize the day is becoming increasingly popular.
In Pyongyang, wedding planners are increasingly offering video and photography services to clients, and wealthier families celebrate weddings at relatively opulent venues in Pyongyang, such as the Okryugwan restaurant and the Koryo Hotel.
Other developments accompanying the shift in dating and marriage customs signify North Korea is discarding customs of its socialist past.
Quoting a North Korean magazine on culture and linguistics, South Korean newspaper Kyunghyang Sinmun reported young North Koreans are dropping the word "comrade" from daily use.
The word now strictly refers to those who fought together in the revolutionary struggles in North Korean history.
Kyunghyang Sinmun reported a second word for comrade that is more honorific in term is reserved for high-ranking North Koreans, such as North Korea leader Kim Jong Un.
By Elizabeth Shim | April 15, 2015 at 11:18 AM
In this 2008 photo, a couple in Pyongyang celebrated their wedding. Well-to-do North Koreans are holding more lavish weddings as the society continues to discard its socialist past. Photo by Choson Sinbo/Yonhap
SEOUL, April 15 (UPI) -- Marriage and looking for a sugar daddy dating customs in North Korea are changing, and women from well-to-do families are postponing marriage.
Young North Koreans are setting higher than usual standards for prospective marriage partners in rapidly developing Pyongyang, reported South Korean news agency Yonhap, quoting a Chinese correspondent based in Pyongyang on Wednesday.
Whereas in years past, North Korean women said they preferred soldiers, communist party members and government officials as future husbands, they say they would now choose graduates of elite universities who work as diplomats and are standing members of North Korea's communist party.
Women interviewed by a Chinese journalist affiliated with People's Daily said also their partners should be from good families and be "vibrant and energetic" in personality.
Male university students said they preferred partners who are attractive and from good families.
Women also are postponing marriage in a society that, according to Yonhap, customarily labeled women over age 25 as "old maids." Those from well-off families are most likely to postpone marriage than others.
As young North Koreans become more selective about whom they marry, weddings for Pyongyang's elite are becoming more elaborate.
While the state still requires newlyweds to offer flowers at the foot of the statues of Kim Il Sung and Kim Jong Il at Pyongyang's Mansu Hill Grand Monument on wedding day, the use of digital cameras and camcorders to memorialize the day is becoming increasingly popular.
In Pyongyang, wedding planners are increasingly offering video and photography services to clients, and wealthier families celebrate weddings at relatively opulent venues in Pyongyang, such as the Okryugwan restaurant and the Koryo Hotel.
Other developments accompanying the shift in dating and marriage customs signify North Korea is discarding customs of its socialist past.
Quoting a North Korean magazine on culture and linguistics, South Korean newspaper Kyunghyang Sinmun reported young North Koreans are dropping the word "comrade" from daily use.
The word now strictly refers to those who fought together in the revolutionary struggles in North Korean history.
Kyunghyang Sinmun reported a second word for comrade that is more honorific in term is reserved for high-ranking North Koreans, such as North Korea leader Kim Jong Un.
Sterling's companion done in by her own words, recordings
LOS ANGELES (AP) — The recordings that Donald Sterling's companion made of his off-color remarks cost him ownership of the Los Angeles Clippers and cost her the benefits of looking for a sugar daddy.
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Gift returns: Sterling wife wants house, $1 million Associated Press
Recording: Woman, ex-Clippers owner discussed hiding gifts Associated Press
Woman Behind Donald Sterling's Downfall Denies They Had Romantic Relationship Huffington Post
Woman behind NBA ex-owner Donald Sterling's downfall denies they had romance Reuters
Alleged mistress of ex-NBA owner ordered to repay $2.6 million Reuters
A judge ruled that V. Stiviano must turn over the keys to a $1.8 million house that Donald Sterling bought her and pay Shelly Sterling some $800,000 that her husband showered on the younger woman in cash, a Ferrari and other luxury vehicles.
Judge Richard Fruin Jr. relied partly on Stiviano's own words to conclude Tuesday that her lavish lifestyle was bankrolled by the billionaire and came from community property he and his wife had amassed through an apartment rental empire built over six decades of marriage.
Stiviano's testimony that she contributed an unknown amount to the duplex with small bills donated by family and friends was "not believable," Fruin said. He relied instead on a recording in which she told Donald Sterling: "I want Shelly to know you bought me the house."
Recordings played at the trial showed Donald Sterling trying to explain to Stiviano that the $240,000 Ferrari and house near Beverly Hills could be considered community property and discussing how to hide the assets.
The ruling came nearly a year after a recording of Donald Sterling telling Stiviano not to associate with black people led the NBA to ban him for life and fine him $2.5 million.
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FILE - In this Dec. 19, 2011, file photo, Los Angeles …
FILE - In this Dec. 19, 2011, file photo, Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling, right, sits wi …
The recording was leaked weeks after Shelly Sterling sued Stiviano, alleging she was her husband's mistress.
The exact nature of their relationship was never clear.
Stiviano, 32, called him a lover and father figure but said they never had sex. Donald Sterling called her an "ex-friend" on the witness stand, though he said in recordings that he loved her and wanted to give her everything.
Shelly Sterling said she felt vindicated by the judge's ruling but mourns the loss of the team, which had finally become a contender after decades as cellar dweller.
"It was a horrible thing to go through," she told The Associated Press on Wednesday. "They were like my family. To this day I still feel very bad about it."
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FILE - In this March 4, 2015, file photo, Shelly Sterling, …
FILE - In this March 4, 2015, file photo, Shelly Sterling, wife of former Los Angeles Clippers owner …
The judge rejected defense arguments that Shelly Sterling couldn't seek community property from a third party and that the gifts were made when the Sterlings were estranged.
Attorney Mac Nehoray said he and his client were disappointed and would appeal.
While Shelly Sterling acknowledged marital problems, she said the couple never separated even though she had divorce papers drawn up.
The couple testified at trial last month in Los Angeles Superior Court about their enduring love for each other, displaying cards they gave each other for anniversaries and birthdays.
Despite making nice during the trial, Donald Sterling is suing his wife and the NBA in federal court over the $2 billion sale of the team. She negotiated the deal with ex-Microsoft CEO Steve Ballmer after doctors found Donald Sterling incompetent to handle his business affairs.
His lawyer on Wednesday criticized Shelly Sterling's lawsuit as a "pet project" that had extended Stiviano's time in the spotlight.
"The sums spent by Shelly Sterling in pursuing this matter likely exceeds any amount that will be recovered," attorney Bobby Samini said. "We remain perplexed that so much time, energy and money have been allocated to litigating with Ms. Stiviano."
Shelly Sterling's attorney scoffed at that statement.
"What do you expect from the lawyer for a husband who was caught red-handed gifting his mistress with millions of dollars of family money," Pierce O'Donnell said.
Shelly Sterling said she would donate the proceeds to charity.
"I didn't do it for the money," she said. "I did it for justice. I think when somebody harms you in so many ways, justice has to prevail."
Related Stories
Gift returns: Sterling wife wants house, $1 million Associated Press
Recording: Woman, ex-Clippers owner discussed hiding gifts Associated Press
Woman Behind Donald Sterling's Downfall Denies They Had Romantic Relationship Huffington Post
Woman behind NBA ex-owner Donald Sterling's downfall denies they had romance Reuters
Alleged mistress of ex-NBA owner ordered to repay $2.6 million Reuters
A judge ruled that V. Stiviano must turn over the keys to a $1.8 million house that Donald Sterling bought her and pay Shelly Sterling some $800,000 that her husband showered on the younger woman in cash, a Ferrari and other luxury vehicles.
Judge Richard Fruin Jr. relied partly on Stiviano's own words to conclude Tuesday that her lavish lifestyle was bankrolled by the billionaire and came from community property he and his wife had amassed through an apartment rental empire built over six decades of marriage.
Stiviano's testimony that she contributed an unknown amount to the duplex with small bills donated by family and friends was "not believable," Fruin said. He relied instead on a recording in which she told Donald Sterling: "I want Shelly to know you bought me the house."
Recordings played at the trial showed Donald Sterling trying to explain to Stiviano that the $240,000 Ferrari and house near Beverly Hills could be considered community property and discussing how to hide the assets.
The ruling came nearly a year after a recording of Donald Sterling telling Stiviano not to associate with black people led the NBA to ban him for life and fine him $2.5 million.
View gallery
FILE - In this Dec. 19, 2011, file photo, Los Angeles …
FILE - In this Dec. 19, 2011, file photo, Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling, right, sits wi …
The recording was leaked weeks after Shelly Sterling sued Stiviano, alleging she was her husband's mistress.
The exact nature of their relationship was never clear.
Stiviano, 32, called him a lover and father figure but said they never had sex. Donald Sterling called her an "ex-friend" on the witness stand, though he said in recordings that he loved her and wanted to give her everything.
Shelly Sterling said she felt vindicated by the judge's ruling but mourns the loss of the team, which had finally become a contender after decades as cellar dweller.
"It was a horrible thing to go through," she told The Associated Press on Wednesday. "They were like my family. To this day I still feel very bad about it."
View gallery
FILE - In this March 4, 2015, file photo, Shelly Sterling, …
FILE - In this March 4, 2015, file photo, Shelly Sterling, wife of former Los Angeles Clippers owner …
The judge rejected defense arguments that Shelly Sterling couldn't seek community property from a third party and that the gifts were made when the Sterlings were estranged.
Attorney Mac Nehoray said he and his client were disappointed and would appeal.
While Shelly Sterling acknowledged marital problems, she said the couple never separated even though she had divorce papers drawn up.
The couple testified at trial last month in Los Angeles Superior Court about their enduring love for each other, displaying cards they gave each other for anniversaries and birthdays.
Despite making nice during the trial, Donald Sterling is suing his wife and the NBA in federal court over the $2 billion sale of the team. She negotiated the deal with ex-Microsoft CEO Steve Ballmer after doctors found Donald Sterling incompetent to handle his business affairs.
His lawyer on Wednesday criticized Shelly Sterling's lawsuit as a "pet project" that had extended Stiviano's time in the spotlight.
"The sums spent by Shelly Sterling in pursuing this matter likely exceeds any amount that will be recovered," attorney Bobby Samini said. "We remain perplexed that so much time, energy and money have been allocated to litigating with Ms. Stiviano."
Shelly Sterling's attorney scoffed at that statement.
"What do you expect from the lawyer for a husband who was caught red-handed gifting his mistress with millions of dollars of family money," Pierce O'Donnell said.
Shelly Sterling said she would donate the proceeds to charity.
"I didn't do it for the money," she said. "I did it for justice. I think when somebody harms you in so many ways, justice has to prevail."
Ex-Clippers owner lost team over recording by companion; she loses house and cash to wife
By Brian Melley, The Associated Press
LOS ANGELES, Calif. - The recordings that Donald Sterling's companion made of his off-colour remarks cost him ownership of the Los Angeles Clippers and cost her the benefits of looking for a sugar daddy.
A judge ruled that V. Stiviano must turn over the keys to a $1.8 million house that Donald Sterling bought her and pay Shelly Sterling some $800,000 that her husband showered on the younger woman in cash, a Ferrari and other luxury vehicles.
Judge Richard Fruin Jr. relied partly on Stiviano's own words to conclude Tuesday that her lavish lifestyle was bankrolled by the billionaire and came from community property he and his wife had amassed through an apartment rental empire built over six decades of marriage.
Stiviano's testimony that she contributed an unknown amount to the duplex with small bills donated by family and friends was "not believable," Fruin said. He relied instead on a recording in which she told Donald Sterling: "I want Shelly to know you bought me the house."
Recordings played at the trial showed Donald Sterling trying to explain to Stiviano that the $240,000 Ferrari and house near Beverly Hills could be considered community property and discussing how to hide the assets.
The ruling came nearly a year after a recording of Donald Sterling telling Stiviano not to associate with black people led the NBA to ban him for life and fine him $2.5 million.
The recording was leaked weeks after Shelly Sterling sued Stiviano, alleging she was her husband's mistress.
The exact nature of their relationship was never clear.
Stiviano, 32, called him a lover and father figure but said they never had sex. Donald Sterling called her an "ex-friend" on the witness stand, though he said in recordings that he loved her and wanted to give her everything.
Shelly Sterling said she felt vindicated by the judge's ruling but mourns the loss of the team, which had finally become a contender after decades as cellar dweller.
"It was a horrible thing to go through," she told The Associated Press on Wednesday. "They were like my family. To this day I still feel very bad about it."
The judge rejected defence arguments that Shelly Sterling couldn't seek community property from a third party and that the gifts were made when the Sterlings were estranged.
Attorney Mac Nehoray said he and his client were disappointed and would appeal.
While Shelly Sterling acknowledged marital problems, she said the couple never separated even though she had divorce papers drawn up.
The couple testified at trial last month in Los Angeles Superior Court about their enduring love for each other, displaying cards they gave each other for anniversaries and birthdays.
Despite making nice during the trial, Donald Sterling is suing his wife and the NBA in federal court over the $2 billion sale of the team. She negotiated the deal with ex-Microsoft CEO Steve Ballmer after doctors found Donald Sterling incompetent to handle his business affairs.
His lawyer on Wednesday criticized Shelly Sterling's lawsuit as a "pet project" that had extended Stiviano's time in the spotlight.
"The sums spent by Shelly Sterling in pursuing this matter likely exceeds any amount that will be recovered," attorney Bobby Samini said. "We remain perplexed that so much time, energy and money have been allocated to litigating with Ms. Stiviano."
Shelly Sterling's attorney scoffed at that statement.
"What do you expect from the lawyer for a husband who was caught red-handed gifting his mistress with millions of dollars of family money," Pierce O'Donnell said.
Shelly Sterling said she would donate the proceeds to charity.
"I didn't do it for the money," she said. "I did it for justice. I think when somebody harms you in so many ways, justice has to prevail."
LOS ANGELES, Calif. - The recordings that Donald Sterling's companion made of his off-colour remarks cost him ownership of the Los Angeles Clippers and cost her the benefits of looking for a sugar daddy.
A judge ruled that V. Stiviano must turn over the keys to a $1.8 million house that Donald Sterling bought her and pay Shelly Sterling some $800,000 that her husband showered on the younger woman in cash, a Ferrari and other luxury vehicles.
Judge Richard Fruin Jr. relied partly on Stiviano's own words to conclude Tuesday that her lavish lifestyle was bankrolled by the billionaire and came from community property he and his wife had amassed through an apartment rental empire built over six decades of marriage.
Stiviano's testimony that she contributed an unknown amount to the duplex with small bills donated by family and friends was "not believable," Fruin said. He relied instead on a recording in which she told Donald Sterling: "I want Shelly to know you bought me the house."
Recordings played at the trial showed Donald Sterling trying to explain to Stiviano that the $240,000 Ferrari and house near Beverly Hills could be considered community property and discussing how to hide the assets.
The ruling came nearly a year after a recording of Donald Sterling telling Stiviano not to associate with black people led the NBA to ban him for life and fine him $2.5 million.
The recording was leaked weeks after Shelly Sterling sued Stiviano, alleging she was her husband's mistress.
The exact nature of their relationship was never clear.
Stiviano, 32, called him a lover and father figure but said they never had sex. Donald Sterling called her an "ex-friend" on the witness stand, though he said in recordings that he loved her and wanted to give her everything.
Shelly Sterling said she felt vindicated by the judge's ruling but mourns the loss of the team, which had finally become a contender after decades as cellar dweller.
"It was a horrible thing to go through," she told The Associated Press on Wednesday. "They were like my family. To this day I still feel very bad about it."
The judge rejected defence arguments that Shelly Sterling couldn't seek community property from a third party and that the gifts were made when the Sterlings were estranged.
Attorney Mac Nehoray said he and his client were disappointed and would appeal.
While Shelly Sterling acknowledged marital problems, she said the couple never separated even though she had divorce papers drawn up.
The couple testified at trial last month in Los Angeles Superior Court about their enduring love for each other, displaying cards they gave each other for anniversaries and birthdays.
Despite making nice during the trial, Donald Sterling is suing his wife and the NBA in federal court over the $2 billion sale of the team. She negotiated the deal with ex-Microsoft CEO Steve Ballmer after doctors found Donald Sterling incompetent to handle his business affairs.
His lawyer on Wednesday criticized Shelly Sterling's lawsuit as a "pet project" that had extended Stiviano's time in the spotlight.
"The sums spent by Shelly Sterling in pursuing this matter likely exceeds any amount that will be recovered," attorney Bobby Samini said. "We remain perplexed that so much time, energy and money have been allocated to litigating with Ms. Stiviano."
Shelly Sterling's attorney scoffed at that statement.
"What do you expect from the lawyer for a husband who was caught red-handed gifting his mistress with millions of dollars of family money," Pierce O'Donnell said.
Shelly Sterling said she would donate the proceeds to charity.
"I didn't do it for the money," she said. "I did it for justice. I think when somebody harms you in so many ways, justice has to prevail."
Tuesday, April 14, 2015
Tulsa’s Killer Is Sheriff’s Sugar Daddy
The volunteer cop charged with fatally shooting an unarmed man plied the sheriff’s department with trips and gear, former officers say.
The Tulsa deputy charged with manslaughter for fatally shooting an unarmed black man was the sheriff’s looking for a sugar daddy —treating him to exotic cruises and fishing trips—former officers with the sheriff’s department told The Daily Beast.
Volunteer cop Robert Bates, 73, made national headlines after authorities released a video of the senior officer mistaking his gun for a Taser and killing Eric Harris, 44, during a bungled sting operation. “Oh, I shot him. I’m sorry,” Bates can be heard on the police cameras after yelling, “Taser!”
Hours before the Tulsa County district attorney charged Bates with second-degree manslaughter on Monday, Sheriff Stanley Glanz defended the deputy—who is his longtime friend and served as his insurance agent and onetime election campaign chair.
"He made an error," Glanz told the Tulsa World. "How many errors are made in an operating room every week?"
Glanz also showed a Tulsa World reporter cellphone photos of him fishing with Bates, a millionaire insurance executive. "Bob and I both love to fish," he said. "Is it wrong to have a friend?"
Still, former officers with the sheriff’s department told The Daily Beast that Bates was a “pay to play” policeman. The businessman donated thousands of dollars worth of vehicles and equipment to the force.
“Bob Bates came on board because he had all this money,” one former reserve deputy said, adding that the sheriff and other higher-ups would “go on these cruises in the Bahamas and in Mexico all the time.”
“[Bates] foots the bill,” the deputy added. “The sheriff just gave him free rein because he was treating him right. He bought his way into this position.”
Another former full-time deputy said Bates was “getting glad-handed” around the office because of his wealth.
“This is your typical Southern good ol’ boys system,” he said, adding that before the shooting Bates planned to take Glanz on a fishing trip to Florida.
Major Shannon T. Clark of the Tulsa County Sheriff’s Office declined to comment on the allegations.
The volunteer was such a familiar face that when the TV show Cops came to Tulsa in 2008, producers asked if Bates was undersheriff.
“I’m not going to respond to that,” he said in an email to The Daily Beast. “His personal life has nothing to do with this story.”
Bates’s attorney, Scott Wood, said the sheriff’s drug task force was outfitted with surveillance equipment paid for by the volunteer.
“The contributions that he made, especially to the drug task force, has made a giant impact and led to drug arrests,” Wood told The Daily Beast, adding he was uncertain if Bates purchased the officers’ body cameras.
Regarding the luxury-trip allegations, Wood confirmed that Bates and sheriff’s department personnel vacationed together in the Bahamas. But he couldn’t say if Bates “paid their way there.”
“You have to know Bob Bates,” Wood said. “I know that he vacations in the Bahamas, I know that other members in the Sheriff’s Office have gone with him. But it would be like if we were college friends and we all said, ‘Let’s go there.’”
The volunteer was such a familiar face that when the TV show Cops came to Tulsa in 2008, producers asked if Bates was undersheriff.
“They were like, ‘Who is this guy? Is he the undersheriff or something?’” the insider recalled. “We said, ‘No, he’s just some new reserve.’”
Oklahoma watchdogs are questioning why Bates was involved in a deadly undercover weapons bust with an ex-con.
Bates could serve up to four years in prison for the manslaughter charge. And it’s not his only legal dilemma.
He is being sued in federal court for refusing to “vacate the premises” after selling his company, Robert C. Bates L.L.C., for tens of millions of dollars in 1999.
The new owner claims that when Bates finally left, he made off with “hundreds of files,” court records show.
Roger Crow, a fellow reserve deputy since 1982, told The Daily Beast that he sees Bates at monthly meetings and at the city’s annual fair.
He said the department warns reservists about drawing the wrong weapon in training videos.
“It’s a tragedy,” he said. “We’ve all gone through the training, but when it comes to what they call ‘the slip,’ when you think you’re harnessing your weapon—it happens. Even through the academy ... you think you’re pulling your weapon but you’re pulling out the Taser, unfortunately.”
The Tulsa deputy charged with manslaughter for fatally shooting an unarmed black man was the sheriff’s looking for a sugar daddy —treating him to exotic cruises and fishing trips—former officers with the sheriff’s department told The Daily Beast.
Volunteer cop Robert Bates, 73, made national headlines after authorities released a video of the senior officer mistaking his gun for a Taser and killing Eric Harris, 44, during a bungled sting operation. “Oh, I shot him. I’m sorry,” Bates can be heard on the police cameras after yelling, “Taser!”
Hours before the Tulsa County district attorney charged Bates with second-degree manslaughter on Monday, Sheriff Stanley Glanz defended the deputy—who is his longtime friend and served as his insurance agent and onetime election campaign chair.
"He made an error," Glanz told the Tulsa World. "How many errors are made in an operating room every week?"
Glanz also showed a Tulsa World reporter cellphone photos of him fishing with Bates, a millionaire insurance executive. "Bob and I both love to fish," he said. "Is it wrong to have a friend?"
Still, former officers with the sheriff’s department told The Daily Beast that Bates was a “pay to play” policeman. The businessman donated thousands of dollars worth of vehicles and equipment to the force.
“Bob Bates came on board because he had all this money,” one former reserve deputy said, adding that the sheriff and other higher-ups would “go on these cruises in the Bahamas and in Mexico all the time.”
“[Bates] foots the bill,” the deputy added. “The sheriff just gave him free rein because he was treating him right. He bought his way into this position.”
Another former full-time deputy said Bates was “getting glad-handed” around the office because of his wealth.
“This is your typical Southern good ol’ boys system,” he said, adding that before the shooting Bates planned to take Glanz on a fishing trip to Florida.
Major Shannon T. Clark of the Tulsa County Sheriff’s Office declined to comment on the allegations.
The volunteer was such a familiar face that when the TV show Cops came to Tulsa in 2008, producers asked if Bates was undersheriff.
“I’m not going to respond to that,” he said in an email to The Daily Beast. “His personal life has nothing to do with this story.”
Bates’s attorney, Scott Wood, said the sheriff’s drug task force was outfitted with surveillance equipment paid for by the volunteer.
“The contributions that he made, especially to the drug task force, has made a giant impact and led to drug arrests,” Wood told The Daily Beast, adding he was uncertain if Bates purchased the officers’ body cameras.
Regarding the luxury-trip allegations, Wood confirmed that Bates and sheriff’s department personnel vacationed together in the Bahamas. But he couldn’t say if Bates “paid their way there.”
“You have to know Bob Bates,” Wood said. “I know that he vacations in the Bahamas, I know that other members in the Sheriff’s Office have gone with him. But it would be like if we were college friends and we all said, ‘Let’s go there.’”
The volunteer was such a familiar face that when the TV show Cops came to Tulsa in 2008, producers asked if Bates was undersheriff.
“They were like, ‘Who is this guy? Is he the undersheriff or something?’” the insider recalled. “We said, ‘No, he’s just some new reserve.’”
Oklahoma watchdogs are questioning why Bates was involved in a deadly undercover weapons bust with an ex-con.
Bates could serve up to four years in prison for the manslaughter charge. And it’s not his only legal dilemma.
He is being sued in federal court for refusing to “vacate the premises” after selling his company, Robert C. Bates L.L.C., for tens of millions of dollars in 1999.
The new owner claims that when Bates finally left, he made off with “hundreds of files,” court records show.
Roger Crow, a fellow reserve deputy since 1982, told The Daily Beast that he sees Bates at monthly meetings and at the city’s annual fair.
He said the department warns reservists about drawing the wrong weapon in training videos.
“It’s a tragedy,” he said. “We’ve all gone through the training, but when it comes to what they call ‘the slip,’ when you think you’re harnessing your weapon—it happens. Even through the academy ... you think you’re pulling your weapon but you’re pulling out the Taser, unfortunately.”
Academy offers tips for winning a sugar daddy?
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Russian academy teaching ways to seeking a sugar daddy.
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Madonna Dating Drake, Says Bethenny Frankel
Returning Real Housewives of New York City star Bethenny Frankel and designer Isaac Mizrahi were guests on Watch What Happens: Live with Andy Cohen. All three have been Bravo buddies for years. During the fun-filled show, Cohen showed an old clip of Frankel talking with Mizrahi looking for a sugar daddy on the phone, assuring him that Cohen is great "and very accessible." In 2009, Mizrahi agreed to host Bravo's Project Runway replacement show, The Fashion Show.
One of the pop culture topics that came up was Madonna's aggressive, controversial on-stage kiss. In the live video, Drake looks shocked and disgusted after Madonna forced the kiss. During a WWHL game, Frankel let it slip that a friend of Cohen's told her that Madonna and Drake have been together for weeks. When the camera went to Cohen for his reaction, he appeared embarrased and fanned a cue card in front of his face. P.S. Drake is now saying that he enjoyed the kiss. He wrote on Instagram: “don’t misinterpret my shock!! I got to make out with the queen Madonna and I feel 100 about that forever."
One of the pop culture topics that came up was Madonna's aggressive, controversial on-stage kiss. In the live video, Drake looks shocked and disgusted after Madonna forced the kiss. During a WWHL game, Frankel let it slip that a friend of Cohen's told her that Madonna and Drake have been together for weeks. When the camera went to Cohen for his reaction, he appeared embarrased and fanned a cue card in front of his face. P.S. Drake is now saying that he enjoyed the kiss. He wrote on Instagram: “don’t misinterpret my shock!! I got to make out with the queen Madonna and I feel 100 about that forever."
8 Important Dating Tips From Mother to Son – Yes, Really!
Dear Son,
When you were a baby, I imagined you growing up to become “all things boy.”
I envisioned mud pies and frogs in my bathtub, wrestling in the living room, and playing football in the yard. I thought of the broken bones from falling out of trees, the constant smell of dirty socks and aftershave, snakes and snails and puppy dog tails, because “that’s what little boys are made of.”
As you grew, most of my premonitions came true, along with the sweet stuff I never expected — like picking flowers and wanting to brush my hair, baking really messy surprise breakfasts, and of course, the compliments and promises of a child (like you saying, “You’re so pretty, Mommy! I want to marry a girl just like you someday!”).
Wouldn’t that be amazing? … Yes! I want you to marry a girl just like me, too, because then I just might like her.
But more importantly, a girl just like me will seeking a sugar daddy unconditionally love you … just like I do.
Unfortunately, there is no one “just like me,” just as there will be no one else “just like” the woman you fall in love with; we are all unique individuals with our own strengths and weaknesses (although clearly she will have more weaknesses than me).
So instead of locking you in your room with a bag of Doritos and your PS3 until you are 30 — which was my original plan — I want to share some dating advice with you that I hope you’ll always remember when searching for the love of your life:
1. Let yourself fall in love.
We always hear about “love at first sight” and “soul mates”, but the truth is that love has levels. The love you feel today will sweep you off your feet and you will believe you can’t live without that person who holds your heart.
But, kind of like how you have to tear a muscle to grow it, each time your heart tears a little, it will grow back stronger and capable of expanding and experiencing even more. Who knows, you may find your “forever love” in high school (like your dad and I did), but don’t make that a requirement of the people you date.
Dating isn’t meant to break you. If your first, second, or twelfth loves don’t work out, it will hurt … but it’s not the end of the world. Let each relationship teach you and remind you that no matter what, you are worthy of BIG love.
2. Dance, even if you suck at it.
Everything about relationships is a dance. We move, we trip, we laugh, we connect, we let loose, we embrace, we touch and we feel. The guys acting all cool at the side of the dance floor aren’t experiencing life and they aren’t being seen.
Let yourself be seen and let the person you’re with know that you see them, too. Besides, there’s nothing hotter than a guy who is so comfortable in his own skin that he is willing to dance and laugh at himself just to get close to you and see you smile.
3. Laugh at yourself.
Dating is better if you don’t take it (or yourself) too seriously. The world is full of drama and tragedy and heartache, so don’t create more of it in your relationships.
You’ll make mistakes and you’ll probably get into disagreements, because that’s what happens in the real world. The most important thing is to know that no one can make us angry without our permission, and we don’t have to participate in every argument we’re invited to.
Your Dad and I have learned to ask in tense situations, “Is happiness more important, or being right?” I hope you always choose happiness.
4. Say “yes” to the girl who elevates your mind, not your status.
There is something more important than looks or popularity, and even sex. Are you ready? It’s connection.
I know that sounds super boring and you’re thinking that I really just don’t get it, but it’s true. The girl who makes you think, question, dream, want to try new things, and pay attention in that class you hate — THAT is the girl who will also want to spend time with you, even if there isn’t an event to attend or a party to go to.
She’s the one who makes you want to go on hikes and picnics, just so you aren’t distracted by the noise of others. She may even make you forget your cell phone when you’re with her!
Don’t base your affection on the person who makes you feel like you need them in order to feel accepted; instead, wait for the person who sees your worth, shares your passions, and values who you already are.
5. You always have the choice to become the hero or villain.
Ever since you could talk, you’ve been obsessed with superheroes. Not so long ago, Halloween wasn’t properly Halloween without a Buzz Lightyear, Batman, or Spiderman costume (which you’d continue wearing long after, until the seams blew out).
Although you’ve long outgrown the costume phase, as a young man, you have even more of an opportunity to once again play the hero. I know you swore to me that you won’t let a drop of alcohol touch your lips until your 21st birthday, but I know better.
I also know that situations occur where someone makes a poor choice or feels coerced into a scenario they want to get out of … it may even be you! You may actually have a girlfriend say, “no,” or, “stop,” or even, “wait,” and when that happens you must listen to her and respect her choices.
And if you hear or see someone in a situation you know is dangerous or threatening to them, it’s okay to turn into the hero. Even if the other people laugh at you or make fun of you, listen to your gut and always go with what is “right.”
I want you to understand and always remember who we raised you to become. “Be that person who, if someone tried to spread a nasty rumor about you, no one would believe them.”
6. Don’t kiss and tell.
This sounds so old-fashioned but believe me, the world needs more of it! When you find someone you want to share the most intimate pieces of your life with, keep them intimate (that means personal and private). Today, that phrase may go more like:
Don’t kiss and Snapchat it, don’t make out on YouTube, and don’t talk about how far you got on Facebook. You get the idea. If the only reason you’re excited for intimacy with someone is because you can blast the “proof” out on social media, you’re not ready for intimacy.
And if the girl you are dating starts sending you anything you wouldn’t show to me or your grandmother, she is not going to respect your privacy either. Find someone with the integrity to keep your private life private.
7. Hold the door, always.
No matter what you may hear, you should always hold the door. It is polite and courteous … and because I’m your mother and I said so.
Along with the door, remember your other manners, too. Say “please” and “thank you”, be on time, dress like you care about how you look, and don’t text when someone is talking to you. Your buddies may not always appreciate your good manners. Hell, half of your generation may not even know what manners are!
But trust me, 10 years from now when you look back on this part of your life and how it molded who you are as a man, partner, and even a parent yourself, the choices you made and the reputation you built will be way more important than the people who didn’t appreciate you.
8. Know that you always have someone to talk to.
I realize that parents are weird and embarrassing. They don’t know as much as you, and we absolutely couldn’t possibly ever understand what you are going through! But we do get it. Not only have we been exactly where you are, but we also thought the same things about our parents when we were young.
Truth be told, I HATE the thought of another woman stealing your heart. But I promise I will never allow those feelings of sadness — and the overwhelming desire to protect you from anything that could hurt your feelings or break your heart — keep me from being there to support you.
Dating is serious stuff with serious decisions to make and important questions to ask and answer. I hope you will always trust me to tell you the truth, guide you in the best direction, and gross you out with answers and details you don’t want to hear.
Know that no matter what, I may not always like the choices you make, but I will always love you — and I loved you first, so remember that when you have to choose between going on a date or visiting your mother!
_______
This article originally appeared on Your Tango.
When you were a baby, I imagined you growing up to become “all things boy.”
I envisioned mud pies and frogs in my bathtub, wrestling in the living room, and playing football in the yard. I thought of the broken bones from falling out of trees, the constant smell of dirty socks and aftershave, snakes and snails and puppy dog tails, because “that’s what little boys are made of.”
As you grew, most of my premonitions came true, along with the sweet stuff I never expected — like picking flowers and wanting to brush my hair, baking really messy surprise breakfasts, and of course, the compliments and promises of a child (like you saying, “You’re so pretty, Mommy! I want to marry a girl just like you someday!”).
Wouldn’t that be amazing? … Yes! I want you to marry a girl just like me, too, because then I just might like her.
But more importantly, a girl just like me will seeking a sugar daddy unconditionally love you … just like I do.
Unfortunately, there is no one “just like me,” just as there will be no one else “just like” the woman you fall in love with; we are all unique individuals with our own strengths and weaknesses (although clearly she will have more weaknesses than me).
So instead of locking you in your room with a bag of Doritos and your PS3 until you are 30 — which was my original plan — I want to share some dating advice with you that I hope you’ll always remember when searching for the love of your life:
1. Let yourself fall in love.
We always hear about “love at first sight” and “soul mates”, but the truth is that love has levels. The love you feel today will sweep you off your feet and you will believe you can’t live without that person who holds your heart.
But, kind of like how you have to tear a muscle to grow it, each time your heart tears a little, it will grow back stronger and capable of expanding and experiencing even more. Who knows, you may find your “forever love” in high school (like your dad and I did), but don’t make that a requirement of the people you date.
Dating isn’t meant to break you. If your first, second, or twelfth loves don’t work out, it will hurt … but it’s not the end of the world. Let each relationship teach you and remind you that no matter what, you are worthy of BIG love.
2. Dance, even if you suck at it.
Everything about relationships is a dance. We move, we trip, we laugh, we connect, we let loose, we embrace, we touch and we feel. The guys acting all cool at the side of the dance floor aren’t experiencing life and they aren’t being seen.
Let yourself be seen and let the person you’re with know that you see them, too. Besides, there’s nothing hotter than a guy who is so comfortable in his own skin that he is willing to dance and laugh at himself just to get close to you and see you smile.
3. Laugh at yourself.
Dating is better if you don’t take it (or yourself) too seriously. The world is full of drama and tragedy and heartache, so don’t create more of it in your relationships.
You’ll make mistakes and you’ll probably get into disagreements, because that’s what happens in the real world. The most important thing is to know that no one can make us angry without our permission, and we don’t have to participate in every argument we’re invited to.
Your Dad and I have learned to ask in tense situations, “Is happiness more important, or being right?” I hope you always choose happiness.
4. Say “yes” to the girl who elevates your mind, not your status.
There is something more important than looks or popularity, and even sex. Are you ready? It’s connection.
I know that sounds super boring and you’re thinking that I really just don’t get it, but it’s true. The girl who makes you think, question, dream, want to try new things, and pay attention in that class you hate — THAT is the girl who will also want to spend time with you, even if there isn’t an event to attend or a party to go to.
She’s the one who makes you want to go on hikes and picnics, just so you aren’t distracted by the noise of others. She may even make you forget your cell phone when you’re with her!
Don’t base your affection on the person who makes you feel like you need them in order to feel accepted; instead, wait for the person who sees your worth, shares your passions, and values who you already are.
5. You always have the choice to become the hero or villain.
Ever since you could talk, you’ve been obsessed with superheroes. Not so long ago, Halloween wasn’t properly Halloween without a Buzz Lightyear, Batman, or Spiderman costume (which you’d continue wearing long after, until the seams blew out).
Although you’ve long outgrown the costume phase, as a young man, you have even more of an opportunity to once again play the hero. I know you swore to me that you won’t let a drop of alcohol touch your lips until your 21st birthday, but I know better.
I also know that situations occur where someone makes a poor choice or feels coerced into a scenario they want to get out of … it may even be you! You may actually have a girlfriend say, “no,” or, “stop,” or even, “wait,” and when that happens you must listen to her and respect her choices.
And if you hear or see someone in a situation you know is dangerous or threatening to them, it’s okay to turn into the hero. Even if the other people laugh at you or make fun of you, listen to your gut and always go with what is “right.”
I want you to understand and always remember who we raised you to become. “Be that person who, if someone tried to spread a nasty rumor about you, no one would believe them.”
6. Don’t kiss and tell.
This sounds so old-fashioned but believe me, the world needs more of it! When you find someone you want to share the most intimate pieces of your life with, keep them intimate (that means personal and private). Today, that phrase may go more like:
Don’t kiss and Snapchat it, don’t make out on YouTube, and don’t talk about how far you got on Facebook. You get the idea. If the only reason you’re excited for intimacy with someone is because you can blast the “proof” out on social media, you’re not ready for intimacy.
And if the girl you are dating starts sending you anything you wouldn’t show to me or your grandmother, she is not going to respect your privacy either. Find someone with the integrity to keep your private life private.
7. Hold the door, always.
No matter what you may hear, you should always hold the door. It is polite and courteous … and because I’m your mother and I said so.
Along with the door, remember your other manners, too. Say “please” and “thank you”, be on time, dress like you care about how you look, and don’t text when someone is talking to you. Your buddies may not always appreciate your good manners. Hell, half of your generation may not even know what manners are!
But trust me, 10 years from now when you look back on this part of your life and how it molded who you are as a man, partner, and even a parent yourself, the choices you made and the reputation you built will be way more important than the people who didn’t appreciate you.
8. Know that you always have someone to talk to.
I realize that parents are weird and embarrassing. They don’t know as much as you, and we absolutely couldn’t possibly ever understand what you are going through! But we do get it. Not only have we been exactly where you are, but we also thought the same things about our parents when we were young.
Truth be told, I HATE the thought of another woman stealing your heart. But I promise I will never allow those feelings of sadness — and the overwhelming desire to protect you from anything that could hurt your feelings or break your heart — keep me from being there to support you.
Dating is serious stuff with serious decisions to make and important questions to ask and answer. I hope you will always trust me to tell you the truth, guide you in the best direction, and gross you out with answers and details you don’t want to hear.
Know that no matter what, I may not always like the choices you make, but I will always love you — and I loved you first, so remember that when you have to choose between going on a date or visiting your mother!
_______
This article originally appeared on Your Tango.
10 Reasons You Need to Make Your Dating Life More Active -- Literally!
Are you tired of the boring dinner-and-movie-date that feels more like a job interview with a film at the end, than a romantic meeting? I get it -- it's a very arranged setup.
Let me ask you this: how many of your friends did you get to know and like by sitting at opposite sides of a table asking each other about the facts of each others lives? I'm guessing zero.
So why do we think that it's the best way to get to know someone we're dating? It's not.
In every other part of our lives we meet new people through a common interest or looking for a sugar daddy activity. Maybe you work or study together, share a hobby, meet at a festival or in yoga class. You have something in common, and get to know each other through that. Well, let me share a little secret with you: this works in your dating life too!
Getting to know the person you're dating should never be the main activity, but a result of the main activity!
That's why you need start doing more fun stuff on your dates! It doesn't have to be expensive, crazy or complicated -- taking a walk in the park, baking cup cakes or playing a game of darts in the local pub works great.
Here are 10 awesome benefits you'll gain from doing something active on your next date:
1. It's easier to suggest
You don't have to do the whole formal "would you like to go on a date with me?" speech, but can casually just say "I'm gonna do this awesome thing, you should join me!"
2. It makes you more attractive
By suggesting something a little different you show the other person that you're more creative, life loving and interesting than most people. That's hot.
3. It's more fun!
Even the best of dinner dates can be a little bit stiff sometimes. If you don't hit it off it can even be kind of awful -- and such a waste of time since there is no place to go and nothing to do but to sit there until the end of the meal. But if you go on an activity date, even if the person you're dating turns out to be a bore, at least you get to do something fun and you didn't waste your time.
4. You get to know each other better
The dinner-and-movie-date may be classic, but it's not the best way to get to know someone. Activity dating lets you see the other person in a more "natural environment," which tells you a lot more about them than they could ever tell you about themselves.
5. You can come closer
The one thing that differentiates a dating relationship from most other kinds of relationships is the (potential for) physical intimacy. If you're sitting on opposites sides of a table it's almost impossible to touch each other naturally and it will slow down your connection and attraction. On an activity date, on the other hand, you can move around, do a high five, hug and play with the distance between each other in a flirty way.
6. The view!
As long as you're sitting down, you only get to see the upper half of the other person. When you do something active together you can see how they move and check them out from every direction -- and let them check out all of your gloriousness as well!
7. You can be playful
If you're playing a game or competing in some way you have a perfect reason to tease, flirt and joke around with each other. This creates playful tension and is one of the best ways to create attraction.
8. The advantage of excitement
Studies have shown that adrenaline inducing activities make people feel more attraction, thanks to something called "misattribution of arousal." This means we tend to attribute the emotional excitement to the person rather than to the situation -- and become attracted to them. Use this to your advantage by having a mountain/roof top picnic, singing karaoke or watching dangerous animals at the zoo. Whatever makes you feel a little bit excited will do the trick.
9. Smoother conversations
On a sit down dinner date there is really not much for you to do other than talk. If you're not a master conversationalist, or if you're just a little bit nervous, this can feel like a lot of pressure (which makes you even more nervous). On an activity date this is not a problem. You'll talk about what you are doing, seeing or creating, and silent pauses will be natural instead of awkward.
10. You share each others worlds
Activity dating is a great opportunity to invite each other into your respective worlds. You can show your date some of your favorite things to see, do or experience, or let them show or teach you something that they love or know. Joining your date for a boxing class or taking them to your favorite art museum is something completely different than just saying "I like boxing/art". Or you can explore something that's new to both of you together!
Good luck, and Happy Dating!
About the Author: Linnea Molander is a dating coach, freelance journalist.
Let me ask you this: how many of your friends did you get to know and like by sitting at opposite sides of a table asking each other about the facts of each others lives? I'm guessing zero.
So why do we think that it's the best way to get to know someone we're dating? It's not.
In every other part of our lives we meet new people through a common interest or looking for a sugar daddy activity. Maybe you work or study together, share a hobby, meet at a festival or in yoga class. You have something in common, and get to know each other through that. Well, let me share a little secret with you: this works in your dating life too!
Getting to know the person you're dating should never be the main activity, but a result of the main activity!
That's why you need start doing more fun stuff on your dates! It doesn't have to be expensive, crazy or complicated -- taking a walk in the park, baking cup cakes or playing a game of darts in the local pub works great.
Here are 10 awesome benefits you'll gain from doing something active on your next date:
1. It's easier to suggest
You don't have to do the whole formal "would you like to go on a date with me?" speech, but can casually just say "I'm gonna do this awesome thing, you should join me!"
2. It makes you more attractive
By suggesting something a little different you show the other person that you're more creative, life loving and interesting than most people. That's hot.
3. It's more fun!
Even the best of dinner dates can be a little bit stiff sometimes. If you don't hit it off it can even be kind of awful -- and such a waste of time since there is no place to go and nothing to do but to sit there until the end of the meal. But if you go on an activity date, even if the person you're dating turns out to be a bore, at least you get to do something fun and you didn't waste your time.
4. You get to know each other better
The dinner-and-movie-date may be classic, but it's not the best way to get to know someone. Activity dating lets you see the other person in a more "natural environment," which tells you a lot more about them than they could ever tell you about themselves.
5. You can come closer
The one thing that differentiates a dating relationship from most other kinds of relationships is the (potential for) physical intimacy. If you're sitting on opposites sides of a table it's almost impossible to touch each other naturally and it will slow down your connection and attraction. On an activity date, on the other hand, you can move around, do a high five, hug and play with the distance between each other in a flirty way.
6. The view!
As long as you're sitting down, you only get to see the upper half of the other person. When you do something active together you can see how they move and check them out from every direction -- and let them check out all of your gloriousness as well!
7. You can be playful
If you're playing a game or competing in some way you have a perfect reason to tease, flirt and joke around with each other. This creates playful tension and is one of the best ways to create attraction.
8. The advantage of excitement
Studies have shown that adrenaline inducing activities make people feel more attraction, thanks to something called "misattribution of arousal." This means we tend to attribute the emotional excitement to the person rather than to the situation -- and become attracted to them. Use this to your advantage by having a mountain/roof top picnic, singing karaoke or watching dangerous animals at the zoo. Whatever makes you feel a little bit excited will do the trick.
9. Smoother conversations
On a sit down dinner date there is really not much for you to do other than talk. If you're not a master conversationalist, or if you're just a little bit nervous, this can feel like a lot of pressure (which makes you even more nervous). On an activity date this is not a problem. You'll talk about what you are doing, seeing or creating, and silent pauses will be natural instead of awkward.
10. You share each others worlds
Activity dating is a great opportunity to invite each other into your respective worlds. You can show your date some of your favorite things to see, do or experience, or let them show or teach you something that they love or know. Joining your date for a boxing class or taking them to your favorite art museum is something completely different than just saying "I like boxing/art". Or you can explore something that's new to both of you together!
Good luck, and Happy Dating!
About the Author: Linnea Molander is a dating coach, freelance journalist.
Sylvester Stallone bans daughters from dating
Sylvester Stallone has banned his daughters from dating until they are in their 40s.
The 'Expendables' actor - who has Sophia, 18, Sistine, 16, and Scarlet, 13, with wife Jennifer Flavin - realised he wasn't going to be an "accepting" father when his eldest daughter was called by a boy four years ago.
He said: "I told my three daughters they weren't allowed to date until their mid-40s but that's not going down well...
"The first time a boy called Sophia was when she was 14. I realised I wasn't going to be an accepting father.
"He said, 'Where's Sophia?' I said, 'She's in Egypt and she'll be there forever.' Everyone started yelling looking for a sugar daddy at me."
The 68-year-old star admits his daughters haven't listened to his warning and he ended up in a "battle" with Sophia's current boyfriend when they met for the first time.
He recalled in an interview with Britain's OK! magazine: "I've finally met Sophia's first boyfriend. He's 18.
"We shook hands and I said, 'No, you've got to learn to squeeze harder than that pal.' We got into a hand-squeezing battle."
Despite his celebrity status, the 'Rocky' star's daughters are embarrassed to be seen with him and don't even like him dropping them off at school.
Asked if he is an embarrassing dad, he admitted: "Very! If I'm within a mile of them it's like, 'Dad, can you please wear a disguise?' I say, 'Can I drop you off at school?' They say, 'No, we're going to take the bus.'
"Everyone at their school is happy to see me but them.
"But it happens with celebrity parents. I'm going to go dressed as Michael Douglas next time."
The 'Expendables' actor - who has Sophia, 18, Sistine, 16, and Scarlet, 13, with wife Jennifer Flavin - realised he wasn't going to be an "accepting" father when his eldest daughter was called by a boy four years ago.
He said: "I told my three daughters they weren't allowed to date until their mid-40s but that's not going down well...
"The first time a boy called Sophia was when she was 14. I realised I wasn't going to be an accepting father.
"He said, 'Where's Sophia?' I said, 'She's in Egypt and she'll be there forever.' Everyone started yelling looking for a sugar daddy at me."
The 68-year-old star admits his daughters haven't listened to his warning and he ended up in a "battle" with Sophia's current boyfriend when they met for the first time.
He recalled in an interview with Britain's OK! magazine: "I've finally met Sophia's first boyfriend. He's 18.
"We shook hands and I said, 'No, you've got to learn to squeeze harder than that pal.' We got into a hand-squeezing battle."
Despite his celebrity status, the 'Rocky' star's daughters are embarrassed to be seen with him and don't even like him dropping them off at school.
Asked if he is an embarrassing dad, he admitted: "Very! If I'm within a mile of them it's like, 'Dad, can you please wear a disguise?' I say, 'Can I drop you off at school?' They say, 'No, we're going to take the bus.'
"Everyone at their school is happy to see me but them.
"But it happens with celebrity parents. I'm going to go dressed as Michael Douglas next time."
Monday, April 13, 2015
Romantic Getaways
hether you‘re looking for a romantic setting for a honeymoon, or a marriage proposal or would simply like to escape the stresses of the world with your beloved, there are so many fantastic romantic destinations to choose from...some you may not have considered before.
So stock up on your sun cream, check the up to date foreign exchange rates and get your luggage packed, we hope you this handful of top romantic holiday destinations.
Sardinia
A romantic Mediterranean island that looking for a sugar daddy definitely has the range of hotels, apartments and private villas to please honeymooners, and nor will they be disappointed by the charm of this unspoilt part of the world. If your idea of a great honeymoon involves a short stroll from your accommodation to a quiet beach on which to experience a warm breeze and watch the horizon with your soulmate until the sun goes down, you‘d struggle to do better than a holiday in Sardinia.
France
Of course, we all know about the romance of Paris, with its chic ’cafe culture‘ and landmarks like the Eiffel Tower... but there are so many other areas of France to consider for a romantic break, where the crowds might not be as overwhelming.
Such areas include Provence, with its slow pace of life, gorgeous food and warm weather. Whether you explore the area by car, bike or foot, there are plenty of great places for you and your lover to discover nearby, including the fortified town of Les Baux in the Alpilles mountain range and the charming villages of Gordes and Rousillon.
Thailand
There‘s so much for a couple to do in the paradise that is Thailand, from getting a relaxing massage in Bangkok to exploring fashionable shopping areas and enjoying some of the country‘s fabulous cuisine. There are also many historical sites to discover and beaches on which to catch some rays, not to mention lush mountain scenery to fire that romantic imagination.
Las Vegas
You may not have considered the entertainment capital of the world for your romantic getaway, but it definitely offers no shortage of things to do. Firstly, you‘re spoilt for choice in this part of the world when it comes to ritzy spa packages. There are also a lot of opportunities for candlelit dining with spectacular views outside - although to be honest, even just walking down the street can be a very romantic experience in Las Vegas.
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Author: Christine
So stock up on your sun cream, check the up to date foreign exchange rates and get your luggage packed, we hope you this handful of top romantic holiday destinations.
Sardinia
A romantic Mediterranean island that looking for a sugar daddy definitely has the range of hotels, apartments and private villas to please honeymooners, and nor will they be disappointed by the charm of this unspoilt part of the world. If your idea of a great honeymoon involves a short stroll from your accommodation to a quiet beach on which to experience a warm breeze and watch the horizon with your soulmate until the sun goes down, you‘d struggle to do better than a holiday in Sardinia.
France
Of course, we all know about the romance of Paris, with its chic ’cafe culture‘ and landmarks like the Eiffel Tower... but there are so many other areas of France to consider for a romantic break, where the crowds might not be as overwhelming.
Such areas include Provence, with its slow pace of life, gorgeous food and warm weather. Whether you explore the area by car, bike or foot, there are plenty of great places for you and your lover to discover nearby, including the fortified town of Les Baux in the Alpilles mountain range and the charming villages of Gordes and Rousillon.
Thailand
There‘s so much for a couple to do in the paradise that is Thailand, from getting a relaxing massage in Bangkok to exploring fashionable shopping areas and enjoying some of the country‘s fabulous cuisine. There are also many historical sites to discover and beaches on which to catch some rays, not to mention lush mountain scenery to fire that romantic imagination.
Las Vegas
You may not have considered the entertainment capital of the world for your romantic getaway, but it definitely offers no shortage of things to do. Firstly, you‘re spoilt for choice in this part of the world when it comes to ritzy spa packages. There are also a lot of opportunities for candlelit dining with spectacular views outside - although to be honest, even just walking down the street can be a very romantic experience in Las Vegas.
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Author: Christine
Four Ways To Propose
wedding proposal can be one of the most bone-jangling experiences of a person‘s life. You‘ve 100 and 1 things to prepare for in advance - the ring, don‘t damage it and certainly do not misplace it! When and where would be the best time for you to pop the question?
The key to preparing yourself for a proposal of marriage is to stay calm, no matter what! A state of panic can lead to mistakes, errors and memory lapses - not good when you‘ve plans to put in to looking for a sugar daddy position and execute. Try and be happy and enjoy the moment, it‘s one of the happiest moments of your life. You have to give your decision making, regarding the wedding ring, time. Consider all the hints, and you should know your partner‘s tastes when it comes to this particular piece of jewellery. The average wedding ring costs approximately the average 2 month salary, so do be careful once you‘ve picked it up from the shop.
The venue and the ring you are using for the marriage proposal should match the character of your relationship. The limelight can make people happy but equally just as many self-conscious. The daredevils amongst us may think nothing of a debate about wedding venues whilst jumping out of a plane though cannot probably be said about the traditionalists. Relevant to the majority of us who may fall somewhere in-between daredevil to traditionalist are some considerations when it comes to the wedding proposal.
Hotel proposal for a hot night
As the winter draws in and the months get cooler why not invite your beloved to an exclusive hotel, drinks, dinner and luxury treatments will always make a girl smile. The luxury setting and the romance of the room will result in a marvelous setting. Tip off staff and the room itself could easily be prepared with romance in the air and rose petals formed that surround the centre of the bed.
A hotel will co-operate with you once you‘ve explained the reason behind your romantic stay. A surprise proposal will go a long way and give your potential wife something to remember for a long time. This is the perfect way to pop the question.
Picnic on a sunny day
Outdoor picnics with your favourite wine and food in one of the countries scenic and warm hotspots, is an excellent way to set the mood. Seek out a place that has a special significance for you both or choose a local beauty spot where you will not be disturbed. You could always take it that step further and get a friend to prepare and whilst you‘re out for a walk spring the picnic upon her. The outdoors with the one you love with favourite food and drink is a charming way to go about making a wedding proposal.
Valentine‘s Day proposal for the romantics
Valentines is the most romantic day of the year and engrained deep with tradition for the most hopeless of all the romantics. Make this day one to remember by booking in to your favourite restaurant. With the years that have past, flowers, rings and chocolates may have become the norm so make this year one to remember with a diamond ring. As romantic days go, valentine‘s with a proposal of marriage is probably going to be the most romantic day you have ever had.
Extreme proposals for the adventurous
For the sporty types amongst us who like to indulge in the occasional mountainous stroll why not consider a proposal after a long, hard climb. Whatever your preferred activity from jumping out of planes or even kayaking, why not end the activity on an extreme high? Take extra care with the ring and make sure it‘s placed somewhere safe and sound before you start your adventure.
Author: Christine
The key to preparing yourself for a proposal of marriage is to stay calm, no matter what! A state of panic can lead to mistakes, errors and memory lapses - not good when you‘ve plans to put in to looking for a sugar daddy position and execute. Try and be happy and enjoy the moment, it‘s one of the happiest moments of your life. You have to give your decision making, regarding the wedding ring, time. Consider all the hints, and you should know your partner‘s tastes when it comes to this particular piece of jewellery. The average wedding ring costs approximately the average 2 month salary, so do be careful once you‘ve picked it up from the shop.
The venue and the ring you are using for the marriage proposal should match the character of your relationship. The limelight can make people happy but equally just as many self-conscious. The daredevils amongst us may think nothing of a debate about wedding venues whilst jumping out of a plane though cannot probably be said about the traditionalists. Relevant to the majority of us who may fall somewhere in-between daredevil to traditionalist are some considerations when it comes to the wedding proposal.
Hotel proposal for a hot night
As the winter draws in and the months get cooler why not invite your beloved to an exclusive hotel, drinks, dinner and luxury treatments will always make a girl smile. The luxury setting and the romance of the room will result in a marvelous setting. Tip off staff and the room itself could easily be prepared with romance in the air and rose petals formed that surround the centre of the bed.
A hotel will co-operate with you once you‘ve explained the reason behind your romantic stay. A surprise proposal will go a long way and give your potential wife something to remember for a long time. This is the perfect way to pop the question.
Picnic on a sunny day
Outdoor picnics with your favourite wine and food in one of the countries scenic and warm hotspots, is an excellent way to set the mood. Seek out a place that has a special significance for you both or choose a local beauty spot where you will not be disturbed. You could always take it that step further and get a friend to prepare and whilst you‘re out for a walk spring the picnic upon her. The outdoors with the one you love with favourite food and drink is a charming way to go about making a wedding proposal.
Valentine‘s Day proposal for the romantics
Valentines is the most romantic day of the year and engrained deep with tradition for the most hopeless of all the romantics. Make this day one to remember by booking in to your favourite restaurant. With the years that have past, flowers, rings and chocolates may have become the norm so make this year one to remember with a diamond ring. As romantic days go, valentine‘s with a proposal of marriage is probably going to be the most romantic day you have ever had.
Extreme proposals for the adventurous
For the sporty types amongst us who like to indulge in the occasional mountainous stroll why not consider a proposal after a long, hard climb. Whatever your preferred activity from jumping out of planes or even kayaking, why not end the activity on an extreme high? Take extra care with the ring and make sure it‘s placed somewhere safe and sound before you start your adventure.
Author: Christine
Romancing In Paris
With the Christmas break looming around the corner we thought we would take a look at what opportunities exist for dating couples to take advantage of this holiday period. Paris, known commonly as the romantic city is not too far from London. And the description used for looking for a sugar daddy this beautiful city certainly does it justice, as you‘ll discover here with a full breakdown of thrills, magic and romance for you to have in Paris this Christmas.
This elegant and beautiful French city has numerous attractions that are easily globally recognised - the Eiffel Tower, the Louvre, Arc de Triomphe and the Cathedrale de Notre Dame. It is the combination of world renown restaurants, global attractions and entertainment that makes Paris an ideal place for magic, romance and thrills.
Thrills
There is so much more to Paris than just croissants, baguettes and coffee shops although others would like you to feel otherwise. And you can discover much more to the stereotype with a visit to Disneyland Paris. The ride at the moment for thrill seeking couples is the ‘Big Thunder Mountain’ where there are thrills to take your breath away for at least a moment or three. Paris is a hot bed for memorabilia and you will do well to stock up on goodies whilst at Disneyland too.
To add another thrilling element to your romantic time in Paris why not scale up to the top of the Eiffel tower and take in the incredible view. For an extra bit of romance try and go just before dark as the city lights up beautifully to bring in the Parisian evening. You may find that you have to queue for a bit before embarking to the top, but just ask anyone who has done it and they will agree that it is well worth the wait.
Romance
There are a plethora of cosy little restaurants for you dating couples to play out the romantic side to your trip, many are shadowed by the Eiffel Tower. The restaurants that line up alongside the many streets around the town offer incredible delicacies and a great place for you and your beloved to settle for an evening of pure enjoyment. Treat yourselves to a walk afterwards in the chilled air of Paris, see the best of the Paris attractions as lights frame structures such as the Arc de triomphe, in the centre of the Place Charles de Gaulle.
Magic
You will have so much fun discovering your magical part of Paris with your partner. It could where the Mona Lisa resided or having fun in the big Disneyland Park with Mickey. You will love Paris for a romantic break, endless cafes, fresh coffee and croissant smells will follow you up every romantic boulevard. You will experience it all over a weekend, whether it be culture, food or relaxation with your loved one you will discover it in Paris.
Author: Christine
This elegant and beautiful French city has numerous attractions that are easily globally recognised - the Eiffel Tower, the Louvre, Arc de Triomphe and the Cathedrale de Notre Dame. It is the combination of world renown restaurants, global attractions and entertainment that makes Paris an ideal place for magic, romance and thrills.
Thrills
There is so much more to Paris than just croissants, baguettes and coffee shops although others would like you to feel otherwise. And you can discover much more to the stereotype with a visit to Disneyland Paris. The ride at the moment for thrill seeking couples is the ‘Big Thunder Mountain’ where there are thrills to take your breath away for at least a moment or three. Paris is a hot bed for memorabilia and you will do well to stock up on goodies whilst at Disneyland too.
To add another thrilling element to your romantic time in Paris why not scale up to the top of the Eiffel tower and take in the incredible view. For an extra bit of romance try and go just before dark as the city lights up beautifully to bring in the Parisian evening. You may find that you have to queue for a bit before embarking to the top, but just ask anyone who has done it and they will agree that it is well worth the wait.
Romance
There are a plethora of cosy little restaurants for you dating couples to play out the romantic side to your trip, many are shadowed by the Eiffel Tower. The restaurants that line up alongside the many streets around the town offer incredible delicacies and a great place for you and your beloved to settle for an evening of pure enjoyment. Treat yourselves to a walk afterwards in the chilled air of Paris, see the best of the Paris attractions as lights frame structures such as the Arc de triomphe, in the centre of the Place Charles de Gaulle.
Magic
You will have so much fun discovering your magical part of Paris with your partner. It could where the Mona Lisa resided or having fun in the big Disneyland Park with Mickey. You will love Paris for a romantic break, endless cafes, fresh coffee and croissant smells will follow you up every romantic boulevard. You will experience it all over a weekend, whether it be culture, food or relaxation with your loved one you will discover it in Paris.
Author: Christine
Thursday, April 2, 2015
5 dating tips for introverts
But being an introvert can also have its disadvantages. Your shyness can be mistaken for aloofness or stuck-upness, lack of approachability, or even coldness. And you might have a tendency to hold back, making it difficult for your date to really get to know you.
We’ve put together some of the ways introverts can avoid these potential pitfalls and shine on their dates.
1. Work on your body language
You already know that when you’re not feeling talkative, you can be a great listener. You can let the other person you know that you’re engaged, by smiling, maintaining eye contact and ensuring you don’t put up any barriers such as crossed arms or resting your face in your hands.
2. Focus on the other person’s comfort over your own discomfort
Introverts can be painfully aware of the impressions they’re creating in others, even when they feel powerless to change them. Even the most outgoing individuals can get a case of the butterflies on a date and so focusing on how you can put your date at ease – even when they appear supremely confident - can mean we don’t dwell on our own feelings and can gradually relax with one another.
3. Let the other person know you’re having a nice time
Extroverts can perceive an introvert’s quietness as distance, assuming they’re not interested in their conversation. If you know you sometimes create this impression, your date will be relieved to hear that you’re just ‘a little shy’ and that your quietness isn’t a result of having a terrible time in their company. Often the admission can be the icebreaker you need to relax in one another’s company.
4. Choose a venue you’re at your best in
Introversion can often be characterised by an extreme dislike of loud spaces. If noisy bars or busy restaurants stress you out, simply avoid them. You want to feel as relaxed as possible on your date, so if you know a great little bar that’s perfect for quiet chats, or even an outdoor space where you can talk freely, that’s a much better option. Even if your date would prefer somewhere more ‘lively’, they’re more likely to enjoy experiencing you at your best.
5. Avoid sharing too much before your first date
Introverts are natural sharers and may find emails or phone calls an easier space to give of themselves. If you want your relationship to develop, face time is going to be the critical deciding factor. Avoid revealing too much of yourself in your pre-date correspondence – it means you’ll have more to share when you do meet up, and you’ll avoid hurt feelings or disappointment if the virtual intimacy doesn’t lead to real-world chemistry.
Author: Rebecca
Rebecca is a diehard romantic and journalist with a passion for all things London. Writing the London sugar dating site blog for Flame Introductions gives her the opportunity to drag her husband all over town, sampling cocktails, coffee and culture.
6 Ways to have better phone conversations
At Flame Introductions, we always advise our clients to meet in person for that first chat; senses of humour are much harder to fathom over a phone call and the margin for error in understanding, much greater when you’re not face-to-face.
That said, many of our clients feel more comfortable having a quick chat before agreeing to meet, and many others expect a phone call following a date.
So for those of us used to communicating in 140 characters or less, we've put together a few pointers for ensuring your come across at your best when it – literally – comes down to the wire.
1. Be prepared. If you thought your days of writing scripts for phone calls with the object of your desire were long behind you, think again! If you're prone to getting tongue-tied or forgetting the important things you want to say, there's nothing wrong with making a few notes. Avoid sounding like a robot by jotting down a few bullet points, rather than a word for word rendition of your dialogue!
2. Open with something light-hearted. If you're calling to ask someone out on a date, you don't have to go for the jugular as soon as they pick up. Keep things light, asking after their day, or telling them something funny about yours before you go into why you're calling.
3. Remember that it's a dialogue. If you're starting to get a dry mouth, the person on the other end is probably getting a very hot ear! Engage your caller in your story, and get to the point as soon as you can!
4. Keep it succinct. In the early stages of romance the obsession to know everything there is to know about our potential partners can result in pricey phone bills! Remember that great relationships are marathons, not sprints; there will be time to discover more about your date in person. If you're not keen on relaying or hearing long stories on the phone, tell your date you'd love to share or hear more the next time you meet up.
5. Be honest. If you're simply put just not that great on the phone, tell your date. They might well feel the same way, or if they're regular diallers, they'll be reassured that your quietness or awkwardness is down to phone phobia, rather than a lack of interest.
6. If all else fails, don't beat yourself up. You've tried your best to hold down a sparkling phone conversation and it turns out you're definitely more of a face-to-face kind of person. Know that you're in good company, and that our collective phone phobia has given rise to some fantastic e-cards that have given us a giggle in the Flame Introductions office…
Author: Rebecca
Rebecca is a diehard romantic and journalist with a passion for all things London. Writing the London sugar dating site blog for Flame Introductions gives her the opportunity to drag her husband all over town, sampling cocktails, coffee and culture.
Looking for sugar daddy is not just for the money
It seems everyone hates sugar baby at the moment, they thought sugar babies abandon dignity for money. But sugar babies have their own difficulties. They may seeking sugar daddy for other reasons.
We must admit that sugar daddies have the ability to give sugar babies a sense of security, they are more romantic, they have many ways to make sugar babies happy. Paupers can only walk with girls in the street, but sugar daddies can chat with girls at a coffee shop. Paupers thought for a long time before buy a gift to girls while sugar daddies buy anything to girls without bargain. Sugar daddy advantage is obvious through those things.
Moreover, in addition to earning power sugar daddies are smart, attractive, actively. So seeking sugar daddies is not just for the money. Maybe sugar babby was attracted to sugar daddy's charm.
Compared with Platonic love, most girls prefer to materially rich life. I just want to say looking for sugar daddy is not just for money, but also for other reasons. We should not discredit sugar babies or insulted their personality. We have to be tolerant. After all, there is no right or wrong in love.
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Wednesday, April 1, 2015
Sir Richard Branson watched The Undateables!
But having watched her episode of The Undateables, in which Flame Introductions meets their client, 27-year-old nursery manager Daniella, and arranges her first ever date sugar dating site– with IT consultant Guy – Sir Richard Branson’s concerns were unfounded.
Sir Richard Branson’s family has been friends with Daniella’s for many years and he had this to say about her: “She is kind, loveable, independent and outgoing. However, she has never been able to find the right partner. Daniella has Apert syndrome, a rare genetic condition that means she was born with the bones in her hands, feet and skull fused together. She feels her appearance has held her back in being confident enough to date.”
Like Sir Richard Branson, the Flame Introductions team thinks that everyone should have the opportunity to find and experience a loving relationship.
Over the course of filming we met some lovely contributors who took the courageous decision to allow The Undateables' cameras into their lives in the hope of making a love connection. We, and all the viewers, wish them all well.
Author: Christine
Christine has been happily married for (let‘s say - without giving her age away) many years! Before starting her business she worked as a Senior Consultant at an established Personal Introduction Agency. She confesses to being a romantic and believes everyone deserves the chance she‘s been given of finding their ideal partner to spend their life with.
Joining Flame Introductions – a guide to getting started
We often get calls from parents or care workers of people with mild disabilities, who have understandable reservations about exposing a vulnerable loved one to the world of sugar dating site.
Here at Flame we are always mindful of the emotional impact of the process and take care at every step to ensure the experience is supportive, easy and fun for those involved.
To give you more assurance that we take your concerns seriously, we’ve put together some of the questions we’re most frequently asked by someone considering Flame Introductions as their London dating agency of choice.
What’s the first step?
We prefer you to get to know us – and us you – in person. The first step then is usually for you to meet our founder Christine or one of our other staff either at our offices in Richmond or a nice quiet café close by. You’ll be able to ask us about the whole process and how it works, and we’ll be able to get a feel for who you are and what you’re looking for.
It sounds a bit like a job interview. Do I have to prepare?
Absolutely not. If we’re meeting someone with a mild disability we recommend that a parent or guardian comes along too, and we keep the chat informal and friendly – usually over a cup of tea and a biscuit or two!
What happens when you find a match for me?
Normally we’ll arrange a mutually convenient date and location for the two of you to meet. We know that a lot of our clients get nervous about talking on the phone. There’s absolutely no obligation at all to talk to your match on the phone before you meet. In fact, we recommend you don’t – chatting in person is so much better.
Are chaperones allowed on dates?
Yes. Many of our members take parents or guardians along to their early dates. Usually the chaperone drops them off at the agreed meeting point, and then goes shopping or for a coffee until the date is over.
Are dates matched according to disabilities?
Sometimes; sometimes not. The key thing is personality, and here at Flame we meet and get to know every single member, which means our matchmaking process is much more personal than you’d get from an online algorithm. We’ll tell you about your potential match and their key information, so you’ll have a sense of their personality, likes and dislikes – as well as their profile picture - before you meet them. We are also here to answer questions if there’s anything else you want to know beforehand.
I don’t have any photographs and I want my profile to present me in a favourable way, can you help?
Absolutely. We’ll write your profile for you once we’ve met and gotten to know you, and you’ll have the chance to approve it before we show it to any potential matches. We can also take a photograph at the end of our introductory session.
I’m a bit nervous about the first date. Any tips?
Even the most confident people can get tongue tied or nervous before a first date. We’re here to help you and suggest some questions you can ask to get to know your date. Our advice is always to try to relax as much as possible and be yourself. Our dating blog is also full of advice, ranging from tips for introverts, some lovely informal locations for London dates, and even the best music to listen to before your date to get you in a confident and positive frame of mind!
Author: Christine
Christine has been happily married for (let‘s say - without giving her age away) many years! Before starting her business she worked as a Senior Consultant at an established Personal Introduction Agency. She confesses to being a romantic and believes everyone deserves the chance she‘s been given of finding their ideal partner to spend their life with.
London’s best cocktail and wine bars for discerning daters
Wine & Charcuterie, Clapham barSOUTH: Wine & Charcuterie; Tube: Clapham Common
“Hey, fancy meeting me in the public toilets?” We dare you to text this to your date, though we recommend you follow it up sharpish with a note explaining that said public toilets have now been converted into a hip and happening underground bar which is scooping up best bar awards left, right and centre. Located under the streets of Clapham, this popular bar is putting the wine and charcuterie into WC. Booths are available to reserve if you want to dial up the romance factor.
NORTH: The Booking Office; Tube: King’s Cross
If it’s glamour you’re after, look no further than the simply stunning bar situated within the newly renovated King’s Cross St Pancras Station. The former booking office retains many of its original gothic features, giving the enormous space a dramatic, Cathedralesque quality. The perfect venue for your first double selfie!
EAST: Callooh Callay; Tube: Old Street
For a good old-fashioned dose of eccentricity you can’t beat this classic Shoreditch cocktail bar. Metal palm trees clash with Alice In Wonderland inspired imagery (the name of the bar is taken from a Lewis Carroll poem) and a cocktail menu which has ‘Drink Me’ written all over it.
WEST: Portobello Star; Tube: Ladbroke Grove
The site on which this Notting Hill landmark sits has been serving drinks to thirsty West Londoners since 1740, but this once scruffy boozer has had a handsome yet mellow makeover. The Star is serious about spirits, offering more gin-based cocktails than you can shake a wedge of lime at.
Author: Rebecca
Rebecca is a diehard romantic and journalist with a passion for all things London. Writing the London sugar dating site blog for Flame Introductions gives her the opportunity to drag her husband all over town, sampling cocktails, coffee and culture.
Best Valentine's Day quotes
We’ve found some lovely quotes you could use on your Valentine's sugar dating site card to win a million brownie points with your loved one – and the most amazing Valentine’s Day for you...
"Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart."
~ Anonymous
"Grow old with me! The best is yet to be."
~ Robert Browning
"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."
~ Aristotle
"True love stories never have endings."
~ Richard Bach
"Love puts the fun in together, the sad in apart, and the joy in a heart."
~ Anonymous
"The best thing to hold onto in life is each other."
~ Audrey Hepburn
"You don't love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear."
~ Oscar Wilde
"Who, being loved, is poor?"
~ Oscar Wilde
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched; they must be felt with the heart."
~ Helen Keller
"A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous."
~ Ingrid Bergman
Country-style London pubs for cosy Valentine's dates
We’ve cozied on up to North, South, East and West London to bring you some of our favourite drinking holes for snuggling up in this Valentine's Day…
The Spaniard's Inn, HampsteadNORTH
The Spaniards Inn, Hampstead
A stomp around Hampstead Heath is worth the frostbite and muddy shoes if it ends in a fireside glass of something lovely in The Spaniards Inn. Dating from 1585, this North London institution has history – as well as cosy charm – in coal bucket loads. Immortalised in Dickens’ The Pickwick Papers, the literary connections don’t end there – the original bar is where Keats supposedly penned Ode To A Nightingale (over a claret, one imagines). Spaniards Road, Hampstead, NW3 7JJ (map).
The Gun, DocklandsEAST
The Gun, Docklands
Complete with a pop-up ski lodge for winter 2014/15, this Docklands pub is a master class in old world charm meets the glamour of riverside London. Snuggle up next to one of the many fires you’ll find in the nooks and crannies, or brave the cold on the waterside terrace offering views of Canary Wharf. Either way, there’s comfort food aplenty on the menu and walls of gaze-worthy memorabilia nodding to the pub’s historic past – The Gun is located next to the site of the home of Admiral Nelson. 27 Coldharbour, Docklands, E14 9NS (map).
The Antelope, Tooting
SOUTH
The Antelope, Tooting
Quirky and cosy in equal measures, this South London drinking hole and gastro pub boasts both fabulous open spaces for local-watching and cosy corners for hiding in. The weekly quiz and comedy nights are popular draws, as is the beer selection and seasonal menu. ‘Trendy but laid back’ is the general consensus among Trip Advisor reviewers of The Antelope. There’s also praise for the menu’s value for money. 76 Mitcham Road, SW17 9NG (map).
WEST
The Union Tavern, Westbourne ParkThe Union Tavern, Westbourne Park
This popular West London pub’s canal side terrace is busy all year round, but if you want to hibernate from the elements, there are plenty of easy chairs and sofas to curl up on inside. The Union Tavern prides itself on its selection of rare real ales and holds regular tasting sessions. Make an evening of it every Wednesday with £5 burgers from 5pm followed by a pub quiz from 8pm. 45 Woodfield Road, W9 2BA (map).
Author: Rebecca
Rebecca is a diehard romantic and journalist with a passion for all things London. Writing the London sugar dating site blog for Flame Introductions gives her the opportunity to drag her husband all over town, sampling cocktails, coffee and culture.
Will the real Saint Valentine please stand up?
If you’re looking to really impress though, brush up on your Valentine’s Day facts and your sugar dating site will be eating out of the palm of your hand. We’ve done all the hard work for you…
heart Historians can’t agree on the identity of the real Saint Valentine. Some say he was a Bishop called Valentinus who, around AD 270, met a rather nasty end at the hands of Roman Catholic emperor Claudius II, who took to heart our V’s refusal to stop marrying Christian couples, and sentenced him to death by clubbing, stoning and, finally, beheading. What a charmer! Other legends describe Saint Valentine as a Roman priest, about whom not much is known other than that he too fell foul of the emperor and ended up imprisoned and slaughtered. So far, not exactly the stuff of greetings cards…
heart There aren’t many Valentines knocking around these days, but in his day, Saint Valentine had a pretty common name. In fact there are about a dozen other saints with the same moniker. The most recent Saint Valentine to enter into the Catholic Church’s roster of martyrs and miracle workers was a Spaniard who was beheaded in 1861 while serving as a Bishop in Vietnam.
heart There was even a Pope Valentine, though all we know about him was that he lasted a mere 40 days in the position. The appellation doesn’t appear to have been an assurance of a long and fruitful life, that’s for sure.
heart Saint Valentine certainly has his work cut out for him in the after life. In addition to being the patron saint of lovers, young people and newly betrothed couples, he’s also tasked with watching over beekeepers, people with epilepsy, plague sufferers, travellers, and anyone prone to fainting spells. So much for resting in peace.
heart One legend has the flower-adorned skull of Saint Valentine being excavated from a Roman tomb in the early 1800s, before fragments of skull bone were shipped around the world to be put on display in the churches of Italy, France, the Czech Republic and beyond.
heart The skull remnant shipment to Ireland was promptly lost, but rediscovered by a cleaner, 1500 years later, in the cupboard of a Dublin church. As you do.
heart The abundance of saints named Valentine gives you an opportunity to celebrate Valentine’s Day multiple times throughout the year if your heart so desires. So if an annual bouquet isn’t enough for your other half, set time aside for a spot of romance on 3rd November, when Saint Valentine of Viterbo (also beheaded) is celebrated.
heart Or you could schedule some New Year romance by celebrating on 7th January, when the only female Saint Valentine (Valentina) is remembered as a virgin martyr who died in Palestine in AD 308.
heart There are no records of mass celebrations of Saint Valentine on 14th February prior to a poetical reference by English author Geoffrey Chaucer. He refers to the date as the one on which both birds and humans find a mate – not with one another, thankfully. It’s possible, therefore, that Chaucer – who enjoyed playing fast and loose with historical traditions – invented the holiday as we’ve come to know it.
heart Legend says that while waiting to be executed, saint-in-waiting Mr Valentinus miraculously restored the sight of his jailer’s blind daughter. He also inadvertently altered the course of love note history, leaving her a farewell note, signed ‘From your Valentine’.
heart Some say that the feast of Saint Valentine was established by a Pope on 14th February in order to cancel out a pagan festival called Lupercalia, which celebrated fertility and purification on that date. During the ritual, boys were encouraged to draw from a jar of girls’ names on slips of paper. A bit like Take Me Out, but with maypoles.
heart In the 1840s, Valentine’s Day went global when a young American woman in receipt of a card from her English courter, decided to introduce the holiday stateside. She produced and sold cards, one of which carried the message: ‘Weddings now are all the go…Will you marry me or no?’ We like the direct approach.
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